Jealousy and ways of dealing with it...
This is something I have been dealing with over the past couple of months, both mine and others.
One thing I have learnt from the meetups and from talking to others is that you can't just wish it away, or pretend you don't feel it or that somehow it is "wrong" to feel it. I came across this piece of writing when searching for poly and jealousy.
It really helped me define those feelings I was experiencing, and see it for what it was.
http://www.planetwaves.net/jealousy.html
It is written by William Pennel Rock, and was initially published in the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 1983.
One thing I have learnt from the meetups and from talking to others is that you can't just wish it away, or pretend you don't feel it or that somehow it is "wrong" to feel it. I came across this piece of writing when searching for poly and jealousy.
It really helped me define those feelings I was experiencing, and see it for what it was.
http://www.planetwaves.net/jealousy.html
It is written by William Pennel Rock, and was initially published in the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 1983.
posted by T at 8:28 AM
3 Comments:
Great link. Thanks, Kittyhaus.
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my okcupid tag is 'againstjealousy'. which isn't meant to translate as 'opposed to jealousy,' but rather something more like 'leaning against jealousy.' i always imagine that i have a relationship with jealousy. and if pushing on a force actually helps maintain that force, like gravity and the earth, then pushing on jealousy will also maintain it. i guess it's what you do with jealousy when you sit next to it and push on it in an aware way that moves us into greater understandings of ourselves, others, and our loved ones. i guess what i'm saying is that i agree that jealousy is not a 'bad' emotion that poly people dispense with easily or even with difficulty, but rather that we observe it, try to learn about it, and use our new understandings about it to better manage our relationships. i'm excited when i see others who are tackling jealousy more fully.
yay for poly blogs.
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