Poly Discussion Grop

Just to let you know that Poly discussion group meetings have been set up as follows:

Wednesday 10th January 2007
Wednesday 14th February 2007
Wednesday 14th March 2007
Wednesday 11th April 2007

We meet at BAR Wotever, Central Station 37 Wharfdale Road, London, N1
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Meet on the first floor, from 6:30pm onwards, discussions to start at 7:00

Do bring food to eat as they do not serve any but are OK about us bringing our own

We will also keep an eye out for swaping to Tuesdays, should the room become available. We discussed rotating the facilitation of each meeting. Therefore, if you are interested in facilitating a future meeting, please do let me know.

chickpea65@gmail.com

Jealousy and ways of dealing with it...

This is something I have been dealing with over the past couple of months, both mine and others.
One thing I have learnt from the meetups and from talking to others is that you can't just wish it away, or pretend you don't feel it or that somehow it is "wrong" to feel it. I came across this piece of writing when searching for poly and jealousy.
It really helped me define those feelings I was experiencing, and see it for what it was.

http://www.planetwaves.net/jealousy.html

It is written by William Pennel Rock, and was initially published in the Journal of Humanistic Psychology, 1983.

The following quote is taken from the Gingerbeer website, It is not specifically about polyamory, but is about threesomes, however, a lot of the sentiments are the same.

Everybody understands love in a different way. If I love somebody very much I want them to be free and happy, I want them to be themselves in their full potential and if that means for her going for whatever turns her on, flirting or enjoying new sexual experiences, who would be more happy with her happiness than me that I love her so much?!!! Of course I do feel jelous as well, as all my fears and insecurities will come up and I have to deal with them like every real thing that happens in life. I wouldnt allow myself to stop somebody - espessially somebody that I love - from enjoying life the way they want to, just to avoid feeling insecure (which I dont think we can avoid anyway) we share the ones we love with lots of people that they love and have in their lives apart from us anyway (family , friends etc) love for me is not exclusive. Whatever special I share with her is because of what we feel for each otherit doesnt make it less because she has other people in her life one of my favourite quotes (from my favourite writer) is: "to love somebody means to make somebody glorious" whatever that takes does that make sense?

Originally posted on Gingerbeer by "ButterflyBlue". Re-posted here with permission.

October Poly Meet

The next Poly meet is to be held as follows:

Wednesday 11th October 2006
BAR Wotever, Central Station 37 Wharfdale Road, London, N1
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Meet on the first floor, from 6:30pm onwards, discussions to start at 7:00

Do bring food to eat as they do not serve any but are OK about us bringing our own.

Hope to see you there.

Women's Poly Meet - when and where?

Bar Wotever now has another booking for Tuesday evenings, so we will need to find an alternative location/day.

Please visit this Gingerbeer thread to vote in the poll or give your views as to when/where.

Links added to blog

These links have been added to the sidebar:

USA Polyamory Site
UK Polyamory Site
USA Polyamory Society
USA Love More site
Book Reviews
Poly Families
Poly Resources: Books, films, songs, etc

UK Poly Day 14th October 2006

UK Polyday www.polyday.org.uk

A one-day event for everyone who knows that happy and honest relationships don't have to be monogamous. Polyday combines a day of discussions and an evening of dancing to give you a chance to meet other polyamorous people, to build our community and to experience its diversity

When: Saturday 14 October 2006, from 10:30am. Discussion sessions will run until 6:45pm, with a disco in the evening from 8pm to midnight.

Our own Chickpea65 will be co-facillitating a workshop on Poly Activism.

Where: Doggett's Coat and Badge, a large pub at the southern end of Blackfriars Bridge, London SE1 9UD

Nearest Tube: Blackfriars

How much: 10 pounds for waged people and 5 pounds for unwaged. There are no advance bookings; simply turn up and pay on the day.

For more information, contact: info@polyday.org.uk